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Volume #8 - 👋🏾 Abundance vs. Perfectionism

Volume #8 - 👋🏾 Abundance vs. Perfectionism

August 21, 2023

👋🏾 Hi! I’m (we’re) back to a refreshed CLIQUÉ!

[CLIQUÉ] is moving away from one topic per mail, to a mix of some of the relevant topics on hola.yane’s opinion.

Before I was covering one topic bi-weekly to make sure everything was clear, but I felt it was missing the interconnection among the pillars of MIND 🧠, BODY 🫀, + MONEY 💸. It limited my way of thinking and digesting information.

From now on… You’re getting a sneak peek into how my brain works on a daily basis.

Now, moving on to the main topics of the week:

Abundance mindset vs. Perfectionism

I always needed to get A+ and there were no excuses. For many years, I saw perfectionism as my biggest strength of always overdelivering and exceeding. Like average wasn’t possible for me, and which generated a drive that led to many great decisions, but it never felt like it was enough. When I was 23, after finishing my bachelor’s degree and leading an NGO in Puerto Rico where everything was about my career, I decided to move to Europe without a plan, and timely reading The Code for An Extraordinary Mind where the words - “Sometimes you have to destroy a part of your life to let the next big thing enter.” helped me leave the part of me that wasn’t serving me and to really prioritize myself - body and mind, beyond chasing a career (here I had gained 30 pounds, gastritis, and not feeling healthy at all). I changed my eating habits, started to move my body, and tried to focus on the present. It was a process of debunking limiting beliefs, definitely growing pains of trying to chase an abundance mindset over seeking perfectionism (still working on this 😅).

WHY? When you have an abundance mindset, you go for more from where you are, because your abundance is a sum of what you currently have and the growth mindset. Perfectionism, on the other hand, always lives in the idea of what it could have been or the future of what you could achieve, leaving away the present.

Let’s compare two ways of thinking…

🥴 Perfectionism: “If I don’t achieve this, I’m a failure.”
📈 Abundance Mindset: “I know I’m good at this, I will be able to achieve that.”

— MIND 🧠

Transgenerational trauma? Sometimes it sounds like a trending topic, but it’s about being aware of how traumatic experiences from our parents and grandparents can affect us without the need of directly experiencing it. Remember that our grandparents lived through a few wars, and our parents faced the 2007 market crash. In BetterUp article by Allaya Cooks-Campbell, she deep dives on WHAT is transgenerational trauma and and HOW does it affect our families? “Because generational and historical trauma are related”.

So what? Acknowledging, observing yourself, and reflecting on your actions that come to you “naturally” can help shift the narrative on those behaviors that don’t serve you for the best. For example, some symptoms of trauma include degradation of physical health, anxiety disorders, or even perfectionism.

Definitely, this trauma affects marginalized communities such as women, and I love an Harvard Business Review article that challenges the “impostor syndrome” explaining the cultural shift needed to reduce systemic bias and racism.

My advice: Take some of these reflections to therapy, you don’t need to do it alone. Some governments support therapy, and some companies invest in the mental health of their employees.

— BODY🫀

Don’t panic but stay healthy: @nutritionbykylie shares ideas on how to make healthy living fun, easy, and realistic with easy to cook recipes and more. For the Spanish speaking community - @mindful.dietitian covers a lot around the mindset shift.

_{(Below some recipes screenshots from Kylie’s content}😍_).

But let’s dig deeper… have you been trying to find a reason to be disciplined about physical activity and eating healthier? I know how it feels! - it feels more expensive and time consuming, but not making those changes increases the chances of living less. We all know this or heard about it, but the data is real and cancer rates are rising among people under 50 - some possible reasons go from obesity, lifestyle, to environmental factors such as pollution and carcinogens.

So what? Work out, but make it fun or easy: Make it about YOU, sometimes we may want to follow someone else’s structure and it can help, but create your own standard. Explore the type of workouts you enjoy, maybe you’re more of a Pilates type of person than a CrossFit one. Both options are great.

Checklist in my own words - recommended by the World Health Organization:

Do 10-40 minutes of moderate-to-high intensity physical activity daily.
Train your muscles at least two days a week.
The more you do, the merrier. But follow your own body - for women it’s important to adjust the physical activity with their cycle (check out this guide!)

— MONEY 💸

Economy trends: Did you know that mortgage rates in the 1980s reached a peak of 18.4% caused by the oil embargo against the U.S. in the 1970s? It’s not breaking news that Inflation and Mortgage Rates, being highest since 2002 around 7.09% in the USA, feel like a threat to some of our dreams of owning our first property, but there are different ways to tackle this challenge.

So what? Remember that what happens in the world influences our day-to-day life, I believe that everything has a political aspect. Some of our friends were lucky enough to get a drop under 3% in the 30-year fixed rate in 2020, but if you’re not one of them (like me 😄), Relax! Sometimes it’s nothing related to you, but make sure to act on what you can control.

Under your control: You can either grow your money in a High Yield Saving Account - here is some great content explaining the pros and cons of an account generating 10-15 higher returns on your money than an average saving account, invest in the stock market (about 10% return per year), and wait for a drop in the housing market, OR you can try to find other opportunities besides the housing market to invest your money - like starting the business idea you always wanted 👀.

Again, there will never be a perfect time or place, you’re the one making it. So let go of expectations, love your process, and focus on what you can control.

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